I'm not concerned so much about your sex issues as I am about your tendency to hijack every single thread and turn it into something about you. ... -- there...
Ok, I have thought a lot about this. I feel sick about being fixated on sex, for even having a sex drive. I feel like an idiot for being interested in sex,...
... Exactly. There's a LOT more to bonding with another adult than reproduction -- it'd be a very sad state to be in, to be lacking that bond to the point...
The *only reason* I respond to ojmalm is in the hope that I can prevent this person's incredibly toxic, negative mindset from polluting some vulnerable soul...
Dear Marina; You sound like you are doing very well. You may be over thinking a way bit too much. Maybe relax a bit. Hopefully your not hovering. My ex is...
I hope I didn't come across that I didn't like doing those things for my DH
or that I force them on him. He needs them, and so I do them...because I
love him....
... I actually just told my partner to read that part of the same book, because it so perfectly described my own reaction to the relationship. He had been...
... Tantrums and meltdowns *aren't* the same thing. A tantrum is what a little kid (usually NT) does on a semi-conscious (or fully conscious) level to express...
... As an autistic that was in a LTR with an NT before joining up with another autistic, I feel exactly the opposite... See below for why. :) ... My partner...
You do bring up a good point. I think that most people are so unsure of themselves that they define their existence by the company they keep. Hence the...
Sweetie, I wish I had a wife all the time! LOL Someone to cook, clean, schedule, etc! I always tell my DH he's got it made! I think your situation is exactly...
Well, knowing that you have mentioned you are just starting out in seeking a relationship for yourself, I will say that you sound well-armed!! I think you...
Well, you chose an Aspie husband. Obviously, these things aren't important to you. You chose him because other things were important. But I think we tend to...
If these are things I needed, I wouldn't have stayed with my DH for 7 years
now, would I? He has often said things in public that didn't make sense to...
... I have noticed that there are some NT's I get along great with, and some I can't even communicate with. I think the idea of trying to separate all of ...
Hi Marina, ... I can understand where he might be coming from. My partner and I have so many problems that are the result of us having *the same* weaknesses...
You still want a partner who validates your social standing, whatever that is. Almost everyone wants a partner who doesn't embarass them in public, or alienate...
... Things like wanting the relationship to "grow", or to maintain some kind of "amount" of romance to the relationship. These things seem difficult to even...
Is it possible you are misinterpreting this as a need to have common goals,
interests, etc? Maybe it needs to be specified that you are speaking of
those NTs...
Being an NT married to an Aspie, maybe I can shed some light on this? Because in reading the responses here, I have felt saddened that this is the
view of...
And another thing a lot of NTs want is a partner who validates their social role; they're concerned about how their choice of partner affects all of the group...
... Ok, this gives me some kind of idea of what these could be. These are at least concrete 'role' type things that some people might be able to, or want to...
I think you are right. I think my ex wanted some one who could do house work, work outside the home, take care of the children etc. all at the same time. I...
... Any idea what kinds of things these are? Since I am now open to the possibility of entering into a romantic relationship (and even partially seeking such...
I think NTs are programmed to want a certain set of socially mandated things out of a marriage. ... -- there are two equal and opposite errors into which our...
... What else do people expect from a relationship? Or, let me rephrase, what else is there that is possible to expect from a relationship. It seems to me...
I've been reading Ashley Stanford's "Asperger's Syndrome and Long Term Relationships". She is NT, married to a man who is AS. At one point, she wanted to get...
I apologise for writing to the group again so soon. I have receieved a number of requests from parents and professionals involved with Autistic children asking...
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