I am married to a man who says he is not AS but I see a lot of the
symptoms in him so I hope you guys can help me.

He is so in tuned to his environment that there is no way his 2 kids,
my 3 kids, or myself can keep from annoying him. He is so sensitive
to sounds that he is always saying we are too loud no matter what we
do. He is always complaining we stink even if we just got out of the
shower. He is so sensitive to tastes that he will not eat anything I
cook. We are always accidently getting in "his space." He does not
like any motion or movement in the house….

The biggest problem is he has tried to make us follow all of his
rules which we can't. It is impossible to not do something he
considers wrong. So he punishes us but cursing, yelling, and
throwing things. He thinks nothing of doubling up his fist, shaking
it in my 13 year old daughter's face and saying, "I wish so bad I
could hit you." He does not do any drugs or alcohol. He is simply
that frustrated with everything we do.

We are separated now, he is in CA and I live in OK. He calls me
constantly wanting me to come back home but I can never live like
that again. Is there any way this relationship can be saved. Is
there any way he can learn to not be overwhelmed by everything we do?