My relationship with my brother is somewhat different, he knows all about my
dx of AS as I kept him informed all along and he sort of accepts the lable,
but goes even further than me in believing it to be a conspiracy of
pyscolologists and pysciatrists to lable every facet of human behavior as
some disorder.

He is though very obviosly AS to me and I have told him so on numeros
occasions, he appears at times to be even less social than I am so we don't
have arguments on that score, in fact we pretty much understand each others
need for privacy and time alone. I have no idea what he might have read
about AS but knowing him and the amount he reads it would not surprise me if
he had read up on it.

Had this wonderful moment before Christmas, he rung me up to say he had lost
one job and found another and asked if we had anything else to talk about. I
not feeling talkative on that occasion said no, and the conversation ended
there. No recriminations.

I wish though he would get out of that river in Egypt and come out as an
aspie even if there is no point in getting a dx for him.

Larry

> -----Original Message-----
> From: martha [mailto:marthaj@...]
> Sent: 31 December 2001 17:16
> To: AS-and-proud-of-it@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: [AS-and-Proud-of-it] Delayed Conclusions
>
>
> Something has just dawned on me - three years after I was diagnosed with
> AS. My older sister has seemed to be my number one supporter
> right from the
> start. I went right to her as soon as I was dx. She was in complete
> agreement to all I told her.
>
> In fact, before that, she and I had decided (independently) that
> the reason
> I was different from other people had something to do with autism. But
> neither of us had ever heard of AS at that time. So, after I was dx, and I
> did research on AS, I would make duplicate printouts of what I
> found on the
> internet and gave her one copy. She would read of AS traits, both
> child and
> adult, and say, "Yes, that is definately you!"
>
> She, being a nurse, found the theories about actual physical neurological
> reasons that AS people are the way they are, really quite interesting.
>
> But now I find that she has missed the point all along. She has
> lately been
> acting like she is frustrated with me. She is acting like, "Okay, we have
> known about this for 3 years, when are we going to start
> CHANGING?" She has
> been getting impatient with me when I do not act as "social" as she likes.
> She thinks I am avoiding her when I do not come to ALL the family
> functions
> - even though I never did before.
>
> I guess we just looked at the dx differently. She saw it is a way to help
> me act "normal". I just saw it as an understanding of myself and why I do
> what I do. But I know I will not change. I can learn social
> skills, and try
> to pretend to be normal in public in order to survive in this NT society.
> But just because I know I am AS it certainly does not change me from being
> AS. AS is not like software, that can be changed as needed. AS is
> hard-wired into me and cannot be changed!
>
> I guess I am just a little hurt right now. I feel as though someone that
> was "on my side" has suddenly defected to the other side!
>
> -Martha
>
>
>
>
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