Dear Friends,
I have learned through the Years, that "God is always
wastching, and Caring", He has always been there for
me, A lot of Prayer, Art, awith Clasical music does
wonders. My son is now 32. He works in a boat Yard.
He also is a part time Disc-jockie. He however has his
quarterly moments of "Complete Stubborness", to be
doing things his way. He does though have amazing
gifts that God gave him. I'm sure You will see that
Your Children have grat gifts too.
Loads of LOve, Your Friend, Hope in Tecate
www.rainbowhop.com
--- Patty Cols <imatzero@...> wrote:

> Rubin-
> My heart goes out to you. It isnt easy to live with
> any challenging child for a long time
> I have a son with Asperger's he is ten. However he
> is in the hospital right now as he tried to commit
> suicide during a rage. Turns out he might be
> bi-polar-and not Aspergers or maybe both.My oldest
> is 20 and still gives us problems with regards to
> behavior as a result of the same two conditions.It
> can be hard to be positive all the time and not want
> to puinish- I guess setting limits is a key and both
> of them like the limits-but dont want the limits-it
> is a constant roller coaster. Perhaps cahnging my
> mindset to realize they are the eternal children
> might help. We will all be starting family therapy
> and she does not want to -as per the therapist she
> must or she is out. How can I throw out a kid who
> cant grow up actually. She is 20. I have 2 olther
> children who dont present with any issues,
> I just need to vent- I hope all works out for you
> Patty
>
> Rubin <rubisoph@...> wrote:
> They say that love conquers all, which is somewhat
> naive. We had a situation with our son however,
> that was extreme. We were advised that our best
> course of action was to give him the unconditional
> love we felt for him in spite of our being most
> upset with him....and leave it at that. We didn't
> know what else to do but it seemed like the most
> positive thing we could do, and we did, and it did
> work out for the best. We have a complication with
> our son in that he definitely has Aspergers, but
> he's no longer a child chronologically, he's 39.
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> Original Message:Dearest Rubin,I believe, It's not
> so much, as to take awaypriveleges, as to give an
> extra reward for a job welldone! ie: Our son was
> rewarded by his school, to go onspecial outings,
> Camping if He finished all his work.Love, Hope---
> Rubin wrote:> oh I think it's ok to punish and take
> priveledges> away, but keep in mind, the lesson(s)
> learned as a> result are so extremely short term as
> to be almost> worthless.. I think that
> shouting/bawling them out> is more effective, longer
> lasting...even though it> may depress them for a
> while. I think that hitting,> spanking, is an
> indication of loss of control by the> caring
> parents, and sets an unacceptable role model> for
> behavior....and I'm sure of that negative> aspect.>
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