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I feel so bad for you. I have a 27 year old with AS. I did not have to deal with what you are going through. I am a therapist and from what you describe Chris' behavior is a strong indication that he needs to be evaluated for abuse issues. I would do this immediately. You and your husband need to see a therapist together to deal with this situation. I live in Sacramento where the University of California at Davis Medical Center has a place called the MIND Institute. It specializes in Autism and AS research and treatment. You could contact them by going to their website.
I am glad that you have reached out through this online group. Get support wherever you can with what you are going through. Your husband sounds as if he is in denial about his son's situation. He needs more education about AS and sexual abuse.
Hang in their. Things will get better because you are seeking help.
Take care.
Marilyn
lovmarmike <lovmarmike@...> wrote:
lovmarmike <lovmarmike@...> wrote:
My stepson is 10 years old and was found to have AS when he was very
little, I have been in this family for almost three years and have
brought my own daughter who is almost 5 with me into the family. My
husband "forgot" to mention when I moved in that is son had this
condition. I thought he had ADD or something, until I ask my husband
about his sons behavior and found out what he really had. I dont know
what to do anymore I feel as if I am going crazy trying to help chris
(my stepson) out. His mother doesnt help the situation at all. Mike
(my husband) doesnt seem to know how to handle it either. Chris'
behavior is starting to rub off on to my daughter, and I really
really do not want that to happen. Chris is a good kid some of the
time but sometimes I want to pack my stuff up and my daughter and my
new baby, and get the hell out of here. I have tried so hard with
chris, trying to be a good stepmom and friend. But he crossed the
line when I caught him and my daughter in her closet with her pants
down. All they did was kiss to her kissing is like giving someone a
kiss goodby or goodnight. To him its different. Mike and I sat down
and talked to chris about why he cant do things like this and the
birds and the bee, and what we thought would help. But two months
later my daughter told me of a second time in his closet. And all
they did was kiss. I wanted so badly to leave, but I love Mike and we
have a baby together. I wanted chris to see a counsler but his mom
wont agree to it. I dont know what to do anymore. Chris' mom molested
one of her siblings when she was little and was also molested. Her
daughter (not from chris' dad) was also molested when she was little
by a friend of the family. I dont want my children growing up around
that and I dont think chris should either, but I dont think chris is
being molested by his mother or at least I hope not. Mike is very
mellow when it comes to all of this and doesnt have enough gumption
to do anything about it so if anyone could give me a little advice I
would really appreciate it. Thanks. Going Crazy
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