Hi,

First let me introduce myself...
My name is Amber Perry. I'm in Bend, Oregon, and I was diagnosed with AS
at 21 in 1998. I can honestly say that I'm 26 now and still struggle with
my hygeine. Teeth brushing, bathing, brushing hair. I don't know what it
is. It has to do with the disability, not understanding why appearance is
important for everyday function and to make a good impression for other
people. AS individual will do what's comfortable for them. I think it
takes some coaching and maybe even humiliation (bad I know but true). Hope
this helps.

Amber

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> hi all...
> i'm the mom of a wonderful 11-year old asperger
> diagnosed son....he is homeschooled, and is either
> with his dad (we are divorced, but remain a close
> family group), or myself most of the time..not a lot
> of "external" stressors..other than just "life"
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> he attends sunday school on sunday, and seems to
> enjoy the peer group there...
> a few questions i need some advice on..
> 1. is taking care of hygiene such a big problem
> area with this age in general...he REALLY puts up
> a struggle every time i ask him to shower..(even
> just once a week)!!, and still won't brush his teeth
> on his own at all..he will allow me to brush them
> every other day...(not easily, and only for a few
> seconds)... the shower thing is REALLY getting to be
> bad...in my mind...cause i want him to be clean, not
> smell...look nice (he's a handsome guy) 0:) plus...it's
> hard enough to be "accepted" in a group all cleaned
> up...much less dirty...
> have any of you gone through this problem, and
> do you have any solutions...i fully think it's part
> sensory/part "control" issues at work..but how to
> "unjam" those issues i just am unsure of..
> 2. THIS one's important to me as well..
> have any of you parents of asperger children, OR
> any of the Asperger diagnosed out there gone through
> any "biggie" changes in your lives...and what kinds
> of things help to make getting through those changes
> smoother...make the transitions easier..my son's dad and
> I were divorced when he was 5, now he's 11...we've
> basically still interacted as a family so that my
> son could see his dad...His dad had no where to live,
> so he still lives in the upstairs of my home...
> That way, he spends time with his son...and is saving money
> for a home of some kind...(I make well)..
> This spring I"m going to be selling this home though..my
> neighborhood's getting terrible...and we will
> be moving from the only home my son remembers..
> his dad will be moving with us...for awhile...a year
> or two...then when my son is older, he and his dad
> want to build a place out in the country..
> I will be getting re-married in about 4 years..and
> EVERYONE'S willing to take small baby-steps, and take
> each change slowly..carefully...and with everyone's needs
> in mind...
> Any ideas on how to make change easier...other
> than what i'm doing...one small step at a time? 0:)
> I sure appreciate hearing ideas from others..
> so many people have no clue about asperger's or
> other related disorders...i live in little rock, arkansas, and
> our services here are lacking..as far
> as understanding and qualified doctors go...at least
> understanding and helping asperger children/adults..
> thanks so much for your time... michele
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