hi all...
i'm the mom of a wonderful 11-year old asperger
diagnosed son....he is homeschooled, and is either
with his dad (we are divorced, but remain a close
family group), or myself most of the time..not a lot
of "external" stressors..other than just "life" 0:)
he attends sunday school on sunday, and seems to
enjoy the peer group there...
a few questions i need some advice on..
1. is taking care of hygiene such a big problem
area with this age in general...he REALLY puts up
a struggle every time i ask him to shower..(even
just once a week)!!, and still won't brush his teeth
on his own at all..he will allow me to brush them
every other day...(not easily, and only for a few
seconds)... the shower thing is REALLY getting to be
bad...in my mind...cause i want him to be clean, not
smell...look nice (he's a handsome guy) 0:) plus...it's
hard enough to be "accepted" in a group all cleaned up...much less
dirty...
have any of you gone through this problem, and
do you have any solutions...i fully think it's part
sensory/part "control" issues at work..but how to "unjam" those issues
i just am unsure of..
2. THIS one's important to me as well..
have any of you parents of asperger children, OR
any of the Asperger diagnosed out there gone through
any "biggie" changes in your lives...and what kinds
of things help to make getting through those changes
smoother...make the transitions easier..my son's dad and
I were divorced when he was 5, now he's 11...we've
basically still interacted as a family so that my
son could see his dad...His dad had no where to live,
so he still lives in the upstairs of my home...
That way, he spends time with his son...and is saving money for
a home of some kind...(I make well)..
This spring I"m going to be selling this home though..my
neighborhood's getting terrible...and we will
be moving from the only home my son remembers..
his dad will be moving with us...for awhile...a year
or two...then when my son is older, he and his dad
want to build a place out in the country..
I will be getting re-married in about 4 years..and
EVERYONE'S willing to take small baby-steps, and take
each change slowly..carefully...and with everyone's needs
in mind...
Any ideas on how to make change easier...other
than what i'm doing...one small step at a time? 0:)
I sure appreciate hearing ideas from others..
so many people have no clue about asperger's or
other related disorders...i live in little rock, arkansas, and our
services here are lacking..as far
as understanding and qualified doctors go...at least
understanding and helping asperger children/adults..
thanks so much for your time... michele