Hi everyone,
I have just joined the list and wanted to introduce myself.
I'm 26, student of psychology at the Free University Berlin and
Cornell University and have been working on AD/HD (both child and
adult) in Germany for a while. After having come to the US as an
exchange student I was suprised how differently ADD looked over here,
and decided to write my thesis on adult-AD/HD in the US and Germany.

For this I am looking for adults who have been diagnosed
with ADD/think they have ADD and would be willing to participate in an
interview (no boring questionnaire but an open interview). I'm located
in New York City so you should be near by.

All data will, of course, be kept strictly confidential and only used
for my thesis. The study has been approved by the Cornell
Institutional Review Board and please feel free to contact me if you
have any further questions. If you cannot participate yourself but
know someone in or around NYC who might be interested, feel free to
share this mail.

Oh, now the sad part: my funding does not allow me to compensate for
your participation, except with my deep and honest gratitude.

Thank you very much for your cooperation,
  Harald.

I was wondering if there are levels of severity of ADD/ADHD.  I am
reading some of these posts and most of them sound exactly like my
every day, and I havent gone to the doc to be diagnosed or anything.
At times I can concentrate for hours on one thing like art, or
building my website and read even with the tv on for noise.  But many
other things like things that involve moving, ie cleaning, organizing
etc are a struggle.  Say I set out to clean the kitchen, I fill the
sink, organize the dishes, place some in, think of something like
take out the trash, without thinking, I leave the dishes to take ou
the trash.  Take the trash to at least the front door before the dust
on the cherry server attracts my attention, I try to clean it and get
to litterally scrubbing finger prints, and crud from kids on it off,
see more handprints and such on the walls, and work my way down the
hall way cleaning the walls and lightswitches on and on.  Eventually
I get back to the sink and realize half the dayis done, and the
dishes arent and the water is cold.  I can work myself to the bone
cleaning, and still the house looks like there was nothing done.  The
thing I am the worst at is laundry.  The best time I am able to get
it done is when it is late at night, the kids are in bed, and I am
watching tv on my bed.  Maybe Im just crazy? lol!
Erin
www.volareart.com

Ritalin and Concerta and any other preparations with Ritalin in them are not
supposed to be used with citrus juices, especially grapefruit. I have read
this in several places. Unfortunatly I don't remember where. There are
probably other food/drug combinations bad for medicated ADHD people. One
thing I am sure of is this. Talking to 'experts' and doctors and the like is
a great thing but remember, They Are People Too! You may get some great
advice from them only to find out down the line it is not correct or maybe
it is correct for some people but not for you. I know more in some areas
about ADHD than some of the doctors I have seen. That does not make me an
expert.
It also doesn't mean the doctor is not a great resource.

If anybody knows of any listings about what not to eat with Ritalin or
Adderal please let me know.
It really is a big deal.


"Human Salvation Lies in the Hands of the Creatively Maladjusted"

I've had trouble from grade school on up with testing and not just
fitting in. I mean sying things out of turn because I thought I would
forget it.. it was not until i turned 52 that I was discovered as ADD.
my memory is the worst problem along with procrastination. I've tried
many times to finish college. I'm trying a school on line and now that
I know the problem Ihope to beable to completeit. I have not told my
family about the ADd or my job. I realize now that I have a learning
disability. It makes me feel embarrased. I am now in counseling but I
need to hear from others who are also struggling. thanks rachel

Ritalin and Concerta and any other preparations with Ritalin in them are NOT
supposed to be used with citrus juices, especially grapefruit. I have read
this in several places. Unfortunatly I don't remember where. There are
probably other food/drug combinations bad for medicated ADHD people. One
thing I am sure of is this. Talking to 'experts' and doctors and the like is
a great thing but remember, They Are People Too! You may get some great
advice from them only to find out down the line it is not correct or maybe
it is correct for some people but not for you. I know more in some areas
about ADHD than some of the doctors I have seen. That does not make me an
expert.
It also doesn't mean the doctor is not a great resource.

If anybody knows of any listings about what not to eat with Ritalin or
Adderal please let me know.
It really is a big deal.

Hello All,

    Please accept my apologies for a message that was posted that I
approved for posting and should not have let be posted. I want to
ensure you that I usually read through posts that I do approve and
try to do the best I can to keep all messages that are not for the
group from being posted and it was one case that I did and have
deleted it from the groups message board.

    Should in the future you find a message that you feel is
offensive please let me know personally even if you have to send a
message to post to the whole group as all messages that you see
posted have to be approved before posting and if something gets
through that shouldn't have, is most likely something that was
over looked and with your help you can make sure that it gets
deleted. In this case one member of our group did notified me of
what they felt was offensive and I have deleted the message. I also
in turn did notify the member in which in this case the member was
not trying to be offensive but others might have considered it to be
offensive. I try not to post messages that others might, even
slightly, be offensive out from our message board.

   I hope you all can understand and do thank you for being apart of
our group and that this group is getting you the help and understand
about ADHD and what other members go through with ADHD. We also like
to post success stories of how others members are coping
and dealing with there ADHD, even those who just know family,
friends, or other people who have AD/HD but not themselves.

    If you need to contact me personally please do not hesitate to
contact me at my email address: johnz_adhd@... .

Your Friend,
John Z.
johnz_adhd@...
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ADD_ADHD_Online_Support_Group/

PS: I also am an Adult with AD/HD

Hey is anyone in mn and have yall heard about people that are
diagnosed with add/adhd getting help with college? financial help? or
any help at all? I am thinking about going to college and just trying
to get my ducks in a row.

My son is playing in a tennis tournament tomorrow.  He's playing some
of the best kids in texas.  He has adhd and this drives me up a wall.
I wish he would practice hard and prepare like he should.  I am
concenred about him getting a tennis schlorship.  I am nervious about
this tournament because I am paying money that I really don't have.  I
have to really sacrafice to take him to tournaments.  I do it because
it's very important to me that he get the oppertunity to do well.  I
want him to have the oppertunity that I never had.  It's important to
me that my son not suffer because of my ADHD.  I promissed my son that
if he brought up his grades in school and practice hard I would make
sure he gets to go to his tennis tournaments.  The reality is I have
to sacrifice to allow him to go.  It drives me up a wall that he's so
cavalier about the money and his game.  I wish he was more intense
about his game and future.  But it's his life and I guess i have to
accept it.  But I'm very nervious---I'm praying that he does well.
I'm nervious about his proformance but my boy is just relaxed.  I
don't know what to think.  I'm just trying to be supportive--positive
and kick his butt because of this ADHD he has--he doesn't connect the
dots well.

Sorry it's taken me so long to update.  It's been busy.  I went and saw that
doctor I was
suppose to see (finally).  She said she's not going to medicate me right now
(wooo hooo!!)
I thought for sure she would.  But she heard my fears about being medicated and
agreed it
probably wouldn't be the best thing.  She told me to start writing in a journal
like a little
note to myself of what I need to remember for the next day or whatever I felt
like writing
and she said it will help in time.  I already remember more things because I'm
thinking
about it and writing it down.  Don't get me wrong I've had some bad days where I
was off
track for two or three days at a time.  But it's not everyday like it was.  I
also have a new
dry erase board that I put all my work on so that I remember where I am in each
job and
see what needs to go out.  I was also famously bad about forgetting to order
things.  Like
I'd go to put in a print order and totally forget to order several things.  I've
been getting
better about that too.  I had a print order the other day I put in that had
around 50
pictures and I only forgot one.  That's pretty good!!  the stupid thing was I
went to go
upload that one and freakin forgot again, but luckily it's for an album and I
ordered a prit
almost exactly llike the one I needed anyway so I'll just put that one in
instead.  It's just a
proof album for my studio it's not for a client so it doesn't have to be exact. 
I'm getting
more jobs.  And I'm able to keep up.  I'm making some money and starting to pay
off
some of my bills and that has taken a huge weight off.  I have to admit not
worrying about
the bills has really really helped me stay focused.  I'm just getting into a
groove and it's
working, but I'm worried about a show I have coming up.  I am really  bad about
procrastinating.  Right now I feel like I have no time to think about this show
I have in
September, but I know if I wait much longer it will be too late to order albums
and
whatever else I'll need for my show. How am I going to fit this in when I'm just
feeling like
I'm not such a mess??  I'm really worried this is going to throw me off again. 
Also when I
get frustrated I can't focus and it gets really really hard to remember
anything.  Sometimes
this feeling can last for two to three days.  Does anyone else have that same
problem??
How can I minimize it?  I won't be able to flake out for two to three days soon
because I'll
have too many weddings to think about and get out.  I need to learn to control
it before I
end up forgetting to be at someones wedding or something horrid like that.  Not
the last
wedding I did but the one before thatI forgot the CF cards (can't take any
pictures without
those) and I forgot my flash unit.  I had to go no flash and I had to borrow a
card from my
husband.  Since then he's been checking my bag the night before we go anywhere
to make
sure I remembered everything.  It helps, but he shouldn't have to I should be
able to
remember.

Anyway thanks for reading.  Hope everyone else is doing ok too.
Rebecca

Hi there, my name is Jeff.  i am 35.  I am in NJ.  I just joined today.

I am dating someone who has 2 kids who both have ADHD.  Her son is 7
and has a bad case of ADHD.  He gets very hyper and caused alot of
damage in their apt.  He likes me alot.  His father never played a
role in his life.

He is on medication and is seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist.

I am just concerned on how to handle him if I decided to marry this woman.

Jeff

ok so i just got done with work and i and my wife and I are supposed
to go on a date, she is supposed to be here to pick me up at 4 and it
is now 4:30.  WHY IS IT SO HARD TO BE ON TIME? I try to make it so
that I am going to be 15 min early to everything, I even find myself
being 15 min ahead of my 15 min. Is that just me? or do all people
with adhd get like this? I went from 0 to Pissed off in 2.3 seconds.
any way i am just venting so I hope to talk to yall later.

Hi Group:

  I'm a writer conducting research on ADHD and was wondering if anyone knows if
Teva Pharmaceutical is making a generic version of metadate?

Thanks,


Cindy


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Hi Trish and everyone,

This is Kim, and here's my intro too.  I'm 40, and was diagnosed with ADD
(inattentive) 2 years ago.  I have a 6 yr old daughter who seems to be sympton
free so far.

It's nice to meet all of you, and I look forward to talking to you in the
future.

Kim




Message 1
     From: "trishypoky" trishnsteve@...
     Date: Fri May 26, 2006 9:19pm(PDT)
Subject: A NEW MEMBER

Hi everyone, my name is Trish and I am thrilled to have found a site
that allows people with ADD/ADHD to talk to each other and get ideas
from each other and also just to listen.

I have had a good idea that I have had ADD since 2002 when my son was
diagonosed at the age of 5.  I have had problems academicaly all of my
life and struggled through it, but I never had a name for it.
I was just recently formaly diagnosed with ADD, what a relief.  Now i
know what to do and how to live my life through the guidlines that are
out there for ADD.  I am 42 years old and have 2 children, a boy which
is the oldest at 9 and a girl 7.

Looking forward to hearing from you all.  Are there any nurses in this
site with ADD?  I am having trouble with my employer and would like to
hear how you handle it.

Trish

Hi everyone, my name is Trish and I am thrilled to have found a site
that allows people with ADD/ADHD to talk to each other and get ideas
from each other and also just to listen.

I have had a good idea that I have had ADD since 2002 when my son was
diagonosed at the age of 5.  I have had problems academicaly all of my
life and struggled through it, but I never had a name for it.
I was just recently formaly diagnosed with ADD, what a relief.  Now i
know what to do and how to live my life through the guidlines that are
out there for ADD.  I am 42 years old and have 2 children, a boy which
is the oldest at 9 and a girl 7.

Looking forward to hearing from you all.  Are there any nurses in this
site with ADD?  I am having trouble with my employer and would like to
hear how you handle it.

Trish

Well we took Felisha to a ped Dentist and he was very good with her.
All she could handle was having her teeth cleaned. She has alot of
work that needs to be done on here teeth. She is so closed off right
know I can't get her to talk or laugh or nothing. After she was done
we got her a new outfit and got her lunch. The dentist even said how
afriad that she is. She is so scared to death.She has been walking
around the house and she is following me everywhere but she still will
not talk. She has even started sucking her thum. She has never done
this before. Is this part of her ADD and CAPD or is this that she is
so afraid. Yes she has had bad expernse with Denist before. I get so
worried when she gets like this
  Can someone please expalin to me why she gets like this.
  I am a very worried Mom

I am taken wellbutrin and it works differently than strattera.  I
don't feel as sharp but it doesn't have the horrible effects that the
strattera had.  I am able to urinate and function as a man.  I was
just wondering if anyone else has used welllbutrin before

Hi my name is Michelle and I am new here to this sight.I have a
question and maybe someone here could give me a link or help me on
this one.My son is 6 years old and he was diagnosed with adhd so the
doctor prescribed him strattera.Well we have health insurance but I
still have to pay $50 a month for his meds and I was wondering if
there is someone that helps with the rest of the payment?Oh I forgot
to mention we live in Illinois not that it should matter but you never
know.Thanks.

Ok I just started to realize that my adhd needs to be helped, I
started to look at my resume and descovered that i have changed jobs
every 6 monts. I have switched girlfriends about every 3 to 4 weeks. I
have just gotten married and I want to make things better for us, I
have just started to get help. I am going on the 24th for my first
apointment with my doc about this.  I am just trying to shut my brain
down for part of it. Any way that is kinda my story.

There is still some time left to sign up for tonight's free
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Hi All,
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The drama is getting easier.  We are still broke but I am getting a
regular check.  I will be able to afford taking my son out of town for
a tennis trip and I'll be able to buy her some nice purfume.  We still
don't have a phone but tomarrow I'll but car insurance.  Slowly life
is getting better.  I have to take one hundred dollars to renew my
teacher certificates.  But I can see myself doing that.  Slowly my
life is getting better.  My wife is still mad at me.  But this is
probably the first time I have gone without sex for this years.  I am
ready to hit the wall but I know this is my punishment for being such
a jerk by putting my family through the hell that they have had to
experience.  I guess one pulls themselves out of the hole slowly.  So
I think it's positive.  Thanks group for all of the support--i
appreciate it.  Here I know i have a safe place

I guess it's just one of those times that I need a break because
being a parent can be frustrating.  Our 17 year old son who has ADHD
can be stubborn and wants to do things his way, which are usually the
hard way.  All that we ask is for him to put some effort and try to
get a C in each of his classes.  He doesn't want help from any of us
or to get him a tutor.  He wants to go with his junior class this
summer to Spain and we would like him to experience that but he
doesn't think he needs to improve his grades.  He thinks a D is good
enough in English, Spanish and bible or makes excuses that the
teacher can't teach English.  Now he wants to go to public school for
his senior year because his school is too conservative.  He is always
full of excuses and blames everyone else for his problems. My husband
is out of town this weekend and I'm in charge of my 12 year old
daughter, 13 year old niece, and 17 year son.  I'm a stay at home mom
and don't always feel appreciated.  Mother's Day is just around the
corner but I'm not expecting anything.  I'm doing the best I can but
sometimes it seems overwhelming when your husband has ADD and your
teenage son has it too.

I just needed to vent.

Karen

I really need to watch my mouth.  I can really blow it when I say
thngs that are insensitive.  Sometimes my mind just goes faster than
my mouth.  We were talking at work about building a wall that would
keep out illegal aliens.  My first thought was illegal aliens would
probably build the wall.  I held my tongue but I just think like that.
I wish I didn't think so sarcastically.  I wonder with medication will
I change.  I"m doing well on my job and I think the only things that
woldd prevent me from keeping my job is me offending someone or me not
showing up for work.  I wonder if other people have any advice on
controling ones tongue.  I've done it so far but I just have the urge

The wife in my marriage has been so insistant I should just be able to
get over it and all the other comments expected from non-add types
I have given up on her being a wife at all. She is just a roommate who
happens to be the kids mother. We hav had NO sex in over two years.
I'm at my wits end and about ready to look elsewhere to find intimacy.
It doesn't even feel wrong anymore. I am the joke. I am the mean one
because my stress level is through the roof. I would welcome the
companionship of most anyone at this point. I feel like exploding for
so many different reasons. I know many marriages with an ADHD spouse
end in divorce. I want to keep it together for the kids. I just need a
lover. My "roommate" is gone a lot and spends most of her time with
her male friends. Sometimes until 2:00AM. There is always a good
excuse. The web seems to be complete on her part.

Does anyone else feel this way.

Jeff

It's my son's birthday today.  I'll have some money for a birthday
present.  I get insurance on my car next week.  I can come out of the
hole all at once.  I also should pay for a traffic ticket.
Technically I"m on the lamb.  I have a warrant out for my arrest.
I'll pay for that but I must take it one week at a time.  I pray I
don't get stopped until then.  It's getting better but there still is
a lot hanging over my head.  I'm doing well on my job.  I am tallented
and I can do a job.  That brings me to another point.  I have to get
our phones turned back on.  As you can see I have a lot of challanges.
I wish I could have sex not be so interesting to me.  Sex was
something that I could always focus on.  I would day dream.  The bad
part about that is reality can never live up to fantasy.  When I
wouldn't focus I would think about sex.  Yesterday I had to fight hard
to bring myself to center.  I was waiting on a lady who had a tatoo on
her breast.  I really didn't need that.  I have myself five minutes to
think about it and then I got back to being one hundred percent in the
here and now.  That was a real challange.  Well thanks for letting me
share again.
Bless you all

hi my name's Rebecca.  I'm a photographer in california.  I've been married for
6 1/2 years
now and we have three little girls together.  I've noticed te older I get the
more "problems"
I have.  I won't go into those because they seem to be very run of the mill when
dealing
with ADD.  I never took those issues as ADD related till recently.  My husband
and I have
been having problems for some time now.  Most of those issues were ADD related. 
We
started going to counseling and that's when I found out I have ADD.  I suspected
for a
while now, but it was really hard to hear.  So basically I ended up having to
call into Kaiser
today to set up an appointment.  they refered me to a shrink who specializes in
Adult
ADD.  So I guess the verdict will come down May 9th.  I'm really afraid of what
she's going
to decide to do with me.  I really don't want to be put on medication.  I do
have some huge
issues to overcome.  I am very VERY forgetful.  We're talking my daughters
preschool has
to call me about once a week to ask if I'm going to bring her lunch because
guess what I
forgot it again.  I forget girl scout meetings (bad being as I'm the troop
leader).  I forget
school events at both my oldest daughters schools.  I have forgotten equipment
when I'm
off to photograph a wedding.  I'll tell you right now that I can not clean the
house.  I do
pretty well considering, but unfortunatly my poor husband gets stuck with most
of the
house work.  I just can't focus long enough to get it done.  Quick tasks
(cleaning the
bathrooms and some laundry) I do well with,  but cleaning the kitchen and things
that will
take me a while forget about it, it isn't getting done.  I just don't know where
to go from
here and I was hoping that this group would give me a place to start.

Thanks for reading all of this I'm sure it's as hard for you all to read as it
is for me to sit
still long enough to write it. lol

thanks again,
Rebecca

This week was normal.  I am taking some medicine called Bupropion.  It
doesn't make me dysfunctional sexually so I'm ok in that area.  I need
to be focused so I can make 400 dollars a week.  I get paid by
commission.  I think I can do it.  I need to get my phone on.  I am so
thankful to have this group.  I appreicate the support.  You know so
few people understand what its like having ADHD.

We are having money problems.  My wife is mad because she has to carry
the load.  I got my first check today but I didn't get my commission.
My commission comes next week. My first week selling shoes I made
about three hundred dollars commission.  Well at least next week I'll
have a decient check.  My wife had to give me two hundred dollars to
make the car payment.  You know it's odd that even when we are having
troubles I still want to have sex.  For me it releases the tension.
But she is so made at me--I don't even suggest it.  I lay in bed
thinking about it and feeling badly.  My ADD along with my personal
faults have brought hell into my house.  I fell badly that I'm like
this.  I feel even worse when i lay in my bed thinking "how lame--you
cant even get any from your wife.  Well I'm not doing stupid things at
work.  I have made a decision to be diligent at work.  So far so
good.  But it's when i get good at something is when i get careless. i
am very appreciative of the support i get.  Thanks so much for
providing a non judgemental place

Hello All,

    I was asked to post this to the group as the sender is looking to
do a phone interveiw if you used - Focalin XR - at which they will
pay $75 an hour for the interveiw. If your interested please read
below the details.

Yours truely,
John Zelinski
I'm an Adult with ADHD

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Dear John,



I am looking for adults with AD/HD to take part in a paid study.
Would you be kind enough to let those in your network know about it?
The details are below.



Gwen Carden



The Livingston Group, a qualitative research firm, is looking for
adults in the U.S. with AD/HD who take Focalin XR to take part in a
paid telephone interview the week of April 24 on AD/HD issues on
behalf of a pharmaceutical company. Participants will be paid $75
for a one-hour interview.



If they live in the Chicago or Northern New Jersey areas, we would
like to conduct the interview in person. All others will be
interviewed by phone.



Interested persons may send an e-mail to: adhd@... for
further information. They will be asked to fill out a brief
questionnaire of qualifying information. The company's web site is:
www.tlgonline.com.

HI i am new and i am looking for was to deal with my daughter adhd..
i am stressed to the the limit these days.. please can someone give me
some advice..  i was just recently told my daughter has adhd and i
have been dealing with this behavior for almost 3 years before i could
finally get someone to listen to me.. any advice would be great....