"This attitude, of course, is the end result of purposeful forgetting.
It is an attitude which can only be changed by a deep and honest search
of our motives and actions. Though in some cases we cannot make
restitution at all, and in some cases action ought to be deferred, we
should nevertheless make an accurate and really exhaustive survey of
our past life as it has affected other people. In many instances we
shall find that though the harm done others has not been great, the
emotional harm we have done ourselves has. Very deep, sometimes quite
forgotten, damaging emotional conflicts persist below the level of
consciousness. At the time of these occurrences, they may actually have
given our emotions violent twists which have since discolored our
personalities and altered our lives for the worse." (Twelve and Twelve,
Step Eight, pg. 79)