Thank you so much for all of your suggestions! It's nice to know that
I'm not alone in this.

The medications are not typically used for behavior problems, but some
of the medications used for attention have had the added result of
helping to control behaviors. Beleive me, I am only wanting to try
this as a last resort. We have tried everything. Unfortunately, my
boys are lower funtioning than many of the other JS kids and really
don't have a cognitive understanding of discipline methods that you
would use with normal functioning children. Even their neurologist is
at a loss as to what to do for either of them because they have a very
limited understanding of right and wrong. We have a time out chair,
but it really doesn't mean much to them. They don't understand why
they are sitting there or even what they are doing wrong. I know many
of Brayden's behaviors come from communication difficulties. We have
tried picture exchange, devises, etc., but so far he still can't make
the connection that it is for communication and not to play with. I
have also tried ,as Gretchen mentioned, to try and figure out what is
going on right before the behaviors. The only common thing is that he
only does it to immediate family memebers and only when he is at home.
I really feel like it is because he is not getting as much attention as
he wants. He does fine when he has 100% attention, but of course with
3 kids, there is no way that I can provide that all the time. My
biggest worry right now is that he is really starting to get strong and
he is really hurting his siblings. He frequently draws blood, leaves
bruises, etc. and I am just worried if this doesn't get under control
soon, he is really going to hurt one of his siblings. As it is right
now, I can't let him be in a room alone with his brother or sister. He
has to be watched at all times. I like my home to be a place where my
kids feel safe and comfortable and where they have a refuge from the
world, so I'm working hard to make sure that it stays that way. Thanks
again for all of your help and keep the suggestions coming!

Linzee
--- In 11q_disorders@yahoogroups.com, "lainey_presh" <lainey_presh@...>
wrote:
>
> Hi everyone, I am quite shocked to see people's response in the USA is
> to use medication to control challenging behaviour. Here in the UK
> medication would be a last resort. Challenging behaviour is generally
> caused by communication difficulties, so the key is to find a better
> way for your child to communicate with you. Also use all the same
> methods you would use with non disabled children (naughty chair/praise
> for good behaviour/time out etc) and don't let anyone let your child
> get away with bad behaviour just because they are disabled.
> Good luck, its a challenge for us all!
> Lainey
>