No-one deserves it, nor your fault and you are not alone. To join, please tell a little about yourself in sole confidence to the moderators, Thanks: -this group is moderated to keep out drama and we screen/fight against online predators.
You Are Somebody, Just Needing To Find Your Way Out Again.
These bad things happening to you are not deserved, nor fault, it is that toxic shame and those old messages are lies shame when someone is "even parents" are trying to control you. It is an internal message of "I AM WRONG" that even your parents told "you broke the house/my rules", "you are suppose to be a certain way" and told you that "you are wrong", "you are bad" and "you deserve bad things for you now". But now we are here to remove that shame of "I AM WRONG", break free from the abuse and control. We are simply learning: -make our own decissions in life, -from our own mistakes -to stand up for ourselves too.
RAINN Hotline 800-656-HOPE for R*pe, Abuse, Ince*t of BATTERED Men or Women
Relating to a survivor can open up old wounds and challenges every fact of the way you live. (My feelings toward Barb run the whole gamut from; "What did I do to deserve a relationship with a screwed-up person like you?" to "If we can hang on and lick this, my life will be rich beyond measure." -spouse of a survivor in "Courage To Heal") Groups Disclaimer: Anything shared, is not to be discussed with anyone outside of this group
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