RE: [000-Fear-Of-Doctors] have to go, but don't want to
I understand and sympathize with your feelings. It's not only gynecologists. As a male (42 yrs old) I have not been to a doctor in my adult life. I think your point about just being another body sums up my fears as well--its your body, and you want autonomy over it. I personally would resent the idea of someone listening, probing or examining me. Though I wish I could offer you a solution, I really can't, except my best wishes for you to come to grips with it, deal with the fear and just get it behind you, though I have been unable to do so.
Please feel free to e-mail me at any time if you think I can be of help.
RJS
-----Original Message----- From: Ncrnation@... [mailto:Ncrnation@...] Sent: Monday, October 09, 2000 5:07 PM To: 000-Fear-Of-Doctors@egroups.com Subject: [000-Fear-Of-Doctors] have to go, but don't want to
it was so nice to find this site. i feel so much less alone.
i too am terrified of going to the doctors. for me, i find the whole process very violating. to them, it's just another body so seeing it naked or just grabbing at it is no big deal. but to me, i just want to crawl up and die.
i have to go to the gynecologist. i'm 26 and have never been. and have recently become sexually active for the first time since i was a teenager. i was ok with just using condoms then, but i was stupid then and now i want a little more assurance.
the thought of going though, of letting someone i don't know violate me, puts me into hysterics. i've read up on what happens during the exam, but it says you have to relax and for me, that's not possible. any ideas?
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it was so nice to find this site. i feel so much less alone. i too am terrified of going to the doctors. for me, i find the whole process very violating. to...
Ncrnation@...
Oct 9, 2000 9:07 pm
I wish I could help you...I havent been in 18 years myself... Just know that you are supported in your fear and not alone!! Feel free to email me anytime! Take...
russellandjud@...
Oct 10, 2000 11:45 am
Well, you can find or request a female doc, Go to a ladies clinic and request a female, Order what pills you want from England or Holland (Netherlands?), Go to...
S.D.
suedarnell@...
Oct 10, 2000 12:39 pm
Dear S.D.-- Please do not take this as any form of criticism of your reply to ncrnation's post. In fact I think your suggestions to her were helpful, ...
R.J.S.
rnode@...
Oct 10, 2000 2:00 pm
I understand and sympathize with your feelings. It's not only gynecologists. As a male (42 yrs old) I have not been to a doctor in my adult life. I think...
R.J.S.
rnode@...
Oct 10, 2000 12:55 pm
RJS...... Thank you thank you for putting it into words! I , also mean no criticism to S.D...... Nature taking its course, no matter how you see 'nature', is...
russellandjud@...
Oct 10, 2000 2:46 pm
And I don't go either. No, I don't take it badly. I need to be medicated to see a dentist. I don't know why this phobia is not addressed more. We are too...
S.D.
suedarnell@...
Oct 10, 2000 6:32 pm
Dear SD- I am helped by these e-mail exchanges. Thank you, and thank you too Judy. Before I turned 40 last year, the thought of dying never occurred to me. As...
R.J.S.
rnode@...
Oct 10, 2000 7:11 pm
This has really been great for me to hear from all of you. thank you. i too don't go to the Doctor unless it's an emergency. i haven't had a regular physical...
Ncrnation@...
Oct 12, 2000 3:52 pm
Congratulations on successfully dealing with a medical crisis, the tumor on your spine. My experience with one psych has been very positive. He gave me...
R.J.S.
rnode@...
Oct 16, 2000 11:07 am
I doubt it. But if you did go to a shrink, you could get a special referral, with notes, etc., for the predicament you are in. I wonder if you miscarried or ...
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