Well, you can find or request a female doc,
Go to a ladies clinic and request a female,
Order what pills you want from England or Holland (Netherlands?),
Go to Mexico and get pills,
Or make an ugly face. It'll be over in 15 minutes.
Forget relaxation, though. Just try.
Oh, you will be all covered up with drapes, (sheets)_,and only a couple of
inches
are exposed at a time.
It's not that bad.
Worse comes to worse, tell him or her, you want to know exactly what he is
doing,
everything, before he does it. And tell him/her to talk to you about why you are
required to have an exam.
I mean there ARE a few people that have cervical cancer and don't know it.
So an exam (it is minor) is an altermative to death, for sure.
You would want that cr-p out of you.
It would ususally be obvious, though. Visually with an internal look.
The only part that hurts, is the pap smear. And that is really a split second.
Like
a little pinch. I always make an ugly face, make fists, and grit my teeth
anyway
for it. Relax? Maybe if you can bring your "partner" with you". I mean, he might
as
well see what women have to go through.
I'd stick with the condoms, myself. Are they breaking? There are alternatives to
intercourse, and you can use them with the rythym system and not even use
condoms,
actually..
They tell you not to douch before an exam but that is crazy, too.
They wish they could douch, imho.
-SD


Ncrnation@... wrote:

> it was so nice to find this site. i feel so much less alone.
>
> i too am terrified of going to the doctors. for me, i find the whole process
> very violating. to them, it's just another body so seeing it naked or just
> grabbing at it is no big deal. but to me, i just want to crawl up and die.
>
> i have to go to the gynecologist. i'm 26 and have never been. and have
> recently become sexually active for the first time since i was a teenager. i
> was ok with just using condoms then, but i was stupid then and now i want a
> little more assurance.
>
> the thought of going though, of letting someone i don't know violate me, puts
> me into hysterics. i've read up on what happens during the exam, but it says
> you have to relax and for me, that's not possible. any ideas?
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