I am a virgin who needs a proper diagnosis from a gynecologist.
Currently, I suffer from pain on my left side after every bowel
movement, frequent urination as it gets closer to my menstrual cycle,
and very painful menstrual cycles.

Everytime, I go to the doctor I shut down, due to the fact that none
of these doctors seem to care about my sensitivity of the exam.

They never explain what they are going to do or what is necessary in
the exam. I have a constant fear of just trusting them, because for
some strange reason, I feel that they will just tear my hymen due to
carelessness.

Currently, I don't know what to do!! I need an exam, but am tired of
failed diagnosis. What could I do to get the courage I need?