Question: Some friends have given me referrals to their doctors and
> I'd like to consider trying one on for size - for example, make an
> appointment just to talk to them (no treatment, touching) to see if I
> get a good vibe or not.
Considering that we're the patients here, I don't see why you (or we) couldn't just make an appointment to talk to a doctor, and see if we can come to an understanding. My dentist is very aware of my fears, and over the years has done everything he can to make me feel at ease. The fact that he has a sign on his office that says "Caters to Cowards" probably helps. I'm less afraid of dentists than doctors--although I've never had to have a root canal...
I'm still nervous about my dermatologist visit on Thursday--but I'm trying not to obsess. I've never seen this doctor before, but my psychologist has, ironically enough.